It’s All The Same Horror

At work I’m reviewing resumes and applications for a position on my staff.

Back when this blog started, eleven years ago, I had just had the company I had worked for for 30+ years shut down and I was looking for a new position myself.

Twenty-five years ago, as a single dad, I got back into the dating game and looked for a new partner.

Now we’re about three years into a search for a new house, having looked at countless Zillow listings, and now ramping up the intensity of the search by actually getting out and looking at potential houses.

It occurred to me today that all of these endeavours, house hunting, dating, and job hunting are just different facets of the same horrible game.

We’re making life-altering decisions which are fraught with peril, where a mistake can have massive negative consequences but the correct choice can have equally massive positive results. Yet we are working in the dark with insufficient or even incorrect information, hoping for the best, praying for the very best, and terrified of the worst. It would be fantastic to just get out of the game, to be safe, but that doesn’t work either.

So it’s like the Three Laws of Thermodynamics, which can be colloquially phrased as, “You can’t win, you can’t break even, and you can’t get out of the game.”

The potential upside is what makes it worthwhile, at least in theory. The chance to build a team, to have someone who will have your back, to be stronger as a team than the individuals in it, to have better tools and more capabilities.

Just be careful if you make the mistake of turning on the news…

A hell of a day, wasn’t it? Speaking of “horror.” But today we might have won one, despite what’s being said tonight by Faux News and the GOP “leadership.”

So we need to celebrate our victories, even if they’re not 100% complete and to the satisfaction of our dreams of a better world. We celebrate and we move on.

We can’t get out of the game. But we can keep playing hard and fighting the horrors.

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Papa Bird

The male house finch that built Mama Finch’s nest has quite the bright plumage, even if he is a bit on the scruffy side.

More importantly, he’s taken to perching on the Really Excellent Stick that I have propped up nearby.

From here he can keep an eye on the nest up above and behind me to the left from this view, as well as the hummingbird feeder above his head. This is also a favorite perch of Little Bastard, from which he can guard “his” feeder and ignore the finches.

It’s a Really Excellent Stick!

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The Trouble Twins

Any disturbance, noise, or movement at all and these two idiots are sprinting for the tree and then stopping to see if that was the proper course of action:

Dumb as a sack of hammers, but so far they’ve managed to avoid becoming Purina Hawk Chowder, so I guess it’s working!

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Mama Bird

Most years we’ve been in this house we’ve had nests out on the porch, usually house finches, sometimes mourning doves and hummingbirds. This year is no different.

Today however I noticed a bird staying in the nest even when I came outside (this is right above the sliding glass door) when in the past they’ve flown off instantly, so I’m guessing there are eggs in the nest now.

Mama Bird is on watch. I sat down nearby and the male immediately came over and perched on the rain gutter next to the nest. I’m guessing any attempt to get closer would have been met with an attempted eye gouging. I saw what happened to Tippi Hedron & Rod Taylor – I kept my distance.

 

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Random Old Photos – May 26th

“Old” is relative here – on the one hand, this wasn’t from today or this week or even this month. On the other hand, it wasn’t from years and years ago either.

Taken from the beach at Boca Chica in early April when I was there a couple days before the total solar eclipse in Texas. I do love the formation flying of a flock of brown pelicans, just cruising down the beach on the sea breeze, about 50 feet AGL.

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All Night Long

Here it is, your standard issue, dimestore model male Northern Mockingbird, found year-around almost anywhere in North America except for the very most northern tier of states, Washington to Minnesota.

That jaunty tail, the grey stripes, the flash of white under the wings when it’s in flight… Common and unmistakable.

But most recognizeable of all is its song(s). They have a standard repertoire which is easily recognizeable, but they’re also incredible mimics and can learn to imitate everything from the local stray cats to car alarms.

And the males almost never shut up.

I’ve almost always loved hearing them and they’ve never before bothered me at night, even though they drove my first wife crazy. But now, there’s one in particular that sits outside of our bedroom all freakin’ night long EVERY NIGHT and goes on and on and on and on… This means it’s probably a young male trying to find a mate,  and I can understand the desire. But at this point I wonder what I can do to help move the process along.

Can I hire a mockingbird matchmaker? Can I hire a mockingbird prostitute? I’m open to options!

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Baby Squirrels

With all of those trees you see in the back yard and down the hill in the neighborhood, it shouldn’t be any surprise that we have squirrels in the yard. Especially since we’re feeding the birds every day and the squirrels can mooch off of that bounty.

Normally we see one squirrel, sometimes two. But in the spring, like now, we often can see three or four, with two of them being noticeably smaller than the others.

I have a theory…

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Trying To Impose Order From Chaos

Chaos is winning by four touchdowns in the middle of the third quarter, but I’m hoping to finish strong.

Does this look right to you? I thought not…

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The Roses Groweth & The Roses Flyeth Away

There are houses we looked at this weekend who had large lots (up to 2.22 acres) and were 99% dirt (zoned for raising horses usually) and those with more reasonably sized lots (about 1/2 acre). Some of the smaller lots were also “desert landscaping” (i.e. dirt & rock & cactus) but most had lots of landscaping (or astroturf – water’s rationed and expensive in the desert) and almost all had lots of roses.

This is a good thing! But no matter how much you grow roses, it doesn’t take much wind to start scattering petals, and there’s a LOT of wind up there in the desert. So there will be a lot of this going on. And probably no gardener to take care of them, so there’s another challenge and learning curve for me!

Do they have “Raising Roses 101” classes at the community college?

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Nostalgia

One of the goals of our weekend trip to the Apple Valley / Hesperia region was to not eat at any fast food or national chain restaurants, but instead to eat at local, mom-and-pop style restaurants. We did that!

One of the meals was at a 50’s themed diner along what was once Route 66.

While there I got to thinking about nostalgia and how misguided and just plain wrong it can be. We have this whole warm and fuzzy thing going on about the 1950’s thanks to “Happy Days,” “Back To The Future,” and the like (“Peggy Sue Got Married” is a favorite of mine) but I was there. We had polio and measles and the Korean War and civil rights horrors and women were truly second class citizens and the Cold War and a lot of stuff sucked really bad! We think about Marilyn Monroe and James Dean and the birth of rock ‘n’ roll, which is fine, but it’s not the whole picture. It was not a more innocent time!

One thing that I’ve always loved from that era is the use of glass blocks as an architectural element. I love the look, especially if you can get some color or colored light coming through. I was glad to see several of the houses we looked at using it, particularly in bathrooms and shower settings.

In 2100, seventy-five years from now, will there be 2020’s-themed restaurants and movies? Will they glorify the era of Taylor Swift and the MCU and Teslas while ignoring the existence of Trump, COVID, and the Ukraine invasion?

Will anyone still be around to remember or celebrate anything at all in 2100? “Of course!” but if we’re not careful…

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